Myths & Facts

Counseling is not "As seen on TV"

Facts About Counseling

Fact: It's All About Tools

Therapy provides tools for solving problems and enhancing quality of life, says psychologist Parinda Khatri, PhD. These tools may include relationship skills, anger management, or techniques for controlling thoughts and actions. "You don't have to go into past issues," Khatri tells WebMD. "You can be very focused on the present and specific problems you are targeting." Our approach: You can view a therapist as a problem fixer or as an equipper. If we simply solved your problems for you, you would not benefit from it because the next time a problem arises, you’d need to call the “fixer” again. Instead, we equip you with the tools and resources needed to deal with any issue you may face and walk along beside you each step of the way.

Fact: Therapy is for Everyday Life

These days, everyday life means juggling the demands of your job, family, health, and social circle. Therapy can help you manage those demands more gracefully, whether you're an overstressed parent or a short-tempered executive (or both). Getting a handle on everyday demands will help you function at a higher level and experience more joy. Our approach: We have never met anyone who couldn’t stand for life and their functioning to be a little better. Life is full of stresses, whether things are just too much or you just want to fine tune. Counseling can help you reach a whole new degree of happiness.

Fact: Short-Term Therapy Works

As few as one to four sessions can help you make significant changes in your life, Khatri says. And the benefits go beyond relieving stress and anxiety. Short-term therapy can help you improve your relationships, brush up on parenting skills, sleep better, manage your weight, adopt healthy habits, and become more effective in pursuing your goals. Our approach: Our primary goal is to help you reach your goal as quickly as possible. You and your therapist will work together to determine your goals and how long you may need therapy.

Fact: Therapists Are Not Pill Pushers

Prescription medicine is only one tool a therapist may suggest. The use of medicine depends on why you're seeking therapy and the severity of the problem. For mild to moderate depression, therapy is often enough. For more severe depression, many people find a combination of medication and therapy works best. Ask your doctor about the pros and cons of medication in your case. Our approach: If you don’t need medications, we don’t want to see you on them. But if you do, we want to connect you with a resource that will get you on the right medication and the right dosage. The truth is some people do need medication, your therapist will work with you to decide if medication is the right choice for you. If you deem it is, we have great relationships with area doctors and psychiatrists and will be happy to provide a referral for you.

Fact: Therapy Can Be Convenient

If you've been avoiding therapy because you think you don't have the time, think again. Many offices have weekend and evening hours, and some therapists are willing to do sessions by phone or Skype (as long as you are not in serious distress.) Instead of the traditional hour-long appointment, some therapists offer 15-minute sessions. This works best for targeted issues, such as how to sleep better or manage your anger.

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the most studied forms of psychotherapy. This approach teaches you to recognize and change self-defeating thoughts and behaviors. It is especially effective at treating depression, anxiety, and substance abuse, but can also be helpful for everyday issues, like sleeping better and adopting healthy habits. A typical course of CBT lasts six to 20 sessions.
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is a form of CBT that helps you become more flexible in meeting challenges. This approach emphasizes acceptance of uncomfortable experiences, along with a commitment to actions that support your personal values. It is particularly helpful in coping with workplace stress, chronic pain, and other long-lasting medical conditions.
• Couples Therapy Think couples therapy is for partners who are on the verge of divorce? Therapy is actually far more effective when a relationship is mostly positive, and partners can learn to work through their differences respectfully. "Do you want to dig yourself out of a very big hole," Khatri asks, "or learn to build a bridge over a smaller hole?" Waiting too long is one of the top mistakes couples make with regard to therapy.

Myths About Counseling

Myth: It's All About Your Mother

If therapy makes you think of lying on a couch talking about your childhood, you may be in for a surprise. Real-world therapy has very little in common with fictional scenes on TV. Although discussing the past may be helpful in some situations, most current therapies focus on solving problems in the present and future. Our approach: What, So What, Now What? Meaning, what occurred or happened, so what were the consequences, now what are we going to do to help make it better? Although we may need a little of the what happened and so what did it cause, the bulk of our time in session will be spent on the NOW WHAT do we do about it? The now what is where we see improvement, the now what is how we achieve victory over that situation. The now what is being equipped with real, practical tools to see results. We want you to leave with a sense of hope for the future, not marred in the past.

Myth: Therapy Is for Crazy People

Therapy may have its roots in treating severe mental disorders, but it has since gone mainstream. You don't have to have a mental illness to benefit from therapy -- and seeking therapy does not mean you are mentally ill. Nor is it a sign of weakness. In contrast, it's a sign of resourcefulness. When life feels like it's spinning out of control, therapy is one tool to help you control the spin.

Myth: You'll Be in Therapy Forever

That idea of being in therapy for years? It's another TV cliché. Yes, some people may benefit from ongoing therapy, especially if they have a long-lasting mental illness. But many mental health and quality of life issues can be addressed in a few weeks or months.

Myth: Therapists Just Listen

It has become a running joke: therapists just listen and say things like, "How does that make you feel?" Although listening is a critical part of the job, good therapists also do a lot of talking. This includes asking targeted questions, helping you set goals, and teaching skills that will help you meet those goals. Your therapist may even assign homework to help you practice your new skills.

Myth: All Therapy Is the Same

All kinds of therapy are, in essence, a conversation. But the content and structure of that conversation depend on the type of therapy. Solution-focused therapy helps identify and implement strategies that have worked for you in the past. Interpersonal therapy helps improve your interactions with the people in your life. Other options include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Our approach: We take a relational approach, which is that we get to know you and your goals and we consider it our job to help you get there. We do this by utilizing a combination of therapeutic approaches such as the ones listed above. Your therapist will utilize the skills and approach they deem most beneficial and appropriate for the situation you are currently dealing with. Every session is customized to fit your needs.

Myth: All Therapists Are the Same

The term "therapist" includes people with a wide range of credentials. Psychiatrists are medical doctors. Psychologists have a PhD or similar degree and are highly trained psychotherapists, but cannot prescribe medications. Social workers and licensed mental health counselors are also qualified to provide therapy. Choose a mental health professional who is experienced in the type of therapy you prefer. Our therapists are graduate trained and licensed in areas such as Clinical Psychology, Counseling Psychology, and Counseling. We believe being connected with the right therapist is paramount to the success of the counseling process. Therefore, we will go to great lengths to make sure you are connected with the person best suited for your personality and issues. Even if that person is not on our staff, we will make that referral for you. Our number one goal is to see you get what you need, if that is not us, we will not hesitate to refer you to any of the gifted professionals in our area who may be better suited for your needs.

Myth: Therapy is Expensive

Therapy is sometimes viewed as a luxury, but the costs are more reasonable than you might think. Insurance often covers mental health services, and many university clinics have sliding scales or payment plans. Remember that a handful of sessions can provide significant benefits. If you only see a therapist for a short period, the cost will be more manageable. We accept most insurances and EAP. We also have payment options.

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