Attributes:

Accommodating
Gentle
Indecisive
Procrastinator
Even-tempered
Reserved
Avoidant
Introspective
Laid back
Mellow
Sympathetic
Pleasant and Patient
Tolerant
Steady
Loyal
Indifferent
Stoic
Deliberate
Generous
Unmotivated

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The Bear

Slow, Internal Processor who is a Micro Focused, Relationship Oriented, Abstract Thinker.

Understanding the Bear:

The Bear personality is the picture of steadiness. They are very peaceloving, conflict avoidant, go with the flow individuals. Bears are all about those one-on-one intimate relationships in life. Unlike the Dolphins, they do not need large groups of friends. Instead, they tend towards small groups of closer relationships. People with the Bear personality are very loyal. It may take a while to fully get inside their intimate circle but once you are, their loyalty is unmatched and you will likely remain there for life. However, if you break their trust, it is exceptionally difficult to re-build it and earn your way back into their inner circle. Just like a teddy bear, these individuals are very lovable. They are very laid-back and will tend to remain soft-spoken and take a lot, especially from those they love in attempts to avoid conflict. Often, they will avoid conflict at almost all cost, even if it means denying their own needs. It is important to note that the presence of conflict and chaos is extremely detrimental to individuals with the Bear personality. In fact, they will not remain in a relationship where there is too much conflict and chaos. Although they are teddy bears, we all know what happens when you "poke the bear.” These individuals tend to "take it" until they've had enough and then the lovable teddy bear will become a ferocious grizzly. The same phenomenon happens when you mess with someone a Bear loves. Mama or Papa bear immediately comes out to protect.

A common misperception is that the Bear is a weak or lazy personality. In fact, when Bears feel strongly, they will not back down regardless of their challenger. Individuals with a Bear personality do not emote or talk very much. At times, this makes it very difficult for individuals to adequately "read" how they feel to something since many of the reactions look the same. This may also lead individuals to mistakenly believe that individuals with the Bear personality are apathetic. Although they are often indifferent and indecisive, if they do have an opinion, they likely feel strongly about it. People with this personality type are very deep thinkers, they are incredibly intelligent and wise/insightful, this is likely due to the fact that they spend most of their time listening instead of talking. However, they must work on being more vocal to avoid others feeling they are apathetic or disengaged. Bears are all about the “WHY?”. They enjoy understanding the deeper meaning of things. Bear personalities love lounging around and must have this time alone or with those few people they love to recharge their batteries. In the wild we all think about the bears leisurely relaxing under a tree eating honey, going out to forage for other food or going fishing and then needing to go hibernate for the winter. Individuals with the Bear personality may feel exhausted after being on task for too long or having to be too social for too long, therefore, they must retreat either alone or with those few people closest to them to recharge their batteries.

Important things to remember if you’re a Bear:

Your introversion makes it hard for others to read you and your calmness may look like apathy or laziness. Therefore, try to be more vocal. Also, sometimes avoiding conflict at all costs may cost you a lot more in the long run.

Important things to remember if you’re in a relationship with a Bear:

Since they avoid conflict and chaos at all costs, if you are constantly in conflict or addressing things, they will feel disrespected and tend to pull away even more. The more you rush or pressure them, the more they will shut you out and shut down. Instead, let them know what you’d like to talk about, give them time to think through it then discuss it.

Bears just need to know that you are authentic and truly care, especially about the people and relationships that mean the most to them.

Bear Attributes:

Accommodating, Gentle, Indecisive, Procrastinator, Even-tempered, Reserved, Avoidant, Introspective, Laid back, Mellow, Sympathetic, Pleasant and Patient, Tolerant, Steady, Loyal, Indifferent, Stoic, Deliberate, Generous, Unmotivated