The Seabreeze Relationships

Dolphin + Honeybee

Seabreeze Synergy

Being polar opposite can work well and begin a beautiful SYNERGY if this relationship is in tune. These two are opposite in every way. The Dolphins are macro, fast and external processors, who are emotional, relationship oriented, abstract thinkers whereas the Honeybees are micro, slow and internal processors, who are logical, task oriented concrete thinkers. However, these differences can bring a wonderful synergy. The Dolphins can very much help the Honeybees loosen up and have fun while the Honeybees can help bring order to the Dolphin’s chaos. In addition to this, if they can respect each other’s gifts, it brings the perfect balance of structure and creativity. Honeybees are very systemic and organized, therefore valuing ‘sticking to the plan.’ However, Dolphins are gifted at thinking outside the box to come up with new ways of doing things. When these two differences come together, the Dolphin is innovative and comes up with great ideas while the Honeybee is able to then put structure to it and make sure it is as efficient as possible. Both of these personality types can be very intuitive, therefore, they are likely to pick up on dynamics or details that others may miss.

Sensitive Seabreeze

When dissonant, the collaboration of a Honeybee and a Dolphin can sometimes be characterized as SENSITIVE. Both of these personality types tend to personalize things, which means they think that comments or actions are somehow directed at them, although most of the time it has nothing to do with them. Dolphins will personalize based on the relationship. For example, if the other person is quiet, the Dolphin may automatically assume they are mad at them and begin questioning, “what’s wrong; are you upset with me;” etc. The Honeybee also personalizes but it is frequently associated with their sense of competence. For example, if a question is asked or a suggestion is given the Honeybee is likely to be upset “do you not think I know how to do this?” This hypersensitivity can cause conflicts and will typically lead to moodiness. Honeybees have a natural gift of being able to see and tell you what could have and should have been done differently/better in any situation. The Honeybee’s intent is to help improve it; however, the Dolphin is overly sensitive to criticism and rejection and therefore, feels criticized and rejected by the Honeybee. The Dolphin is likely to get moody and ‘use their blowhole’ to spew some emotional response. These things will hurt the Dolphin's feelings as they truly take it as a personal attack. Likewise, if things do not go as planned, the Honeybee feels it is wrong and when things are wrong, it ruins their whole day. Because of this both of these personalities are known to be very moody. In addition to this over sensitivity, there are stark differences in a Dolphin’s and Bee’s view that can create significant problems. Dolphins are enthusiastic dreamers whereas Honeybees are deeply steeped in logic and realism. This difference can create significant problems. The Dolphins do not hold their enjoyment in the fulfillment of tasks, but dreaming (even if those dreams are unrealistic) are fun and stimulating for the Dolphin. Honeybees have a hard time accepting this and will frequently be annoyed by the lack of practicality of these dreams. The Honeybee will likely point out all of the reasons the dream is not a good idea, is not practical, and will probably not work. To the Dolphin, this feels like the life and fun was just sucked out of the dream. Similarly, Honeybees are likely to interpret the Dolphin’s whimsical nature as superficial, unrealistic and unreliable. This tendency is exacerbated by the fact that Dolphins are very abstract thinkers whereas Honeybees are concrete in their thought patterns. This creates a dynamic of frequent communication breakdowns, misunderstandings, and frustrations. The Dolphin will frequently make comments that the Honeybee interprets as fact that the Dolphin saw purely as communication. For example, if someone says, let’s go to Hawaii, the Honeybee is calculating the cost, deciding if it is realistic or not, and if so is planning the trip, meanwhile the Dolphin possibly had no true intention or concept and definitely no well scripted plan of going to Hawaii. When the trip is not planned, if the Honeybee does not understand this dynamic, they will be frustrated that the trip is not done and will see the Dolphin as unreliable because they did not follow thru. All the while, the Dolphin was purely speaking in abstract language and only meant that Hawaii sounded fun.

Things to Remember:

Not everything said is a personal attack, take time to think it thru before reacting and ask for clarification without being accusatory. Learning to balance these differences can make for a powerful combination. Honeybees, remember the Dolphin’s propensity to feel criticized and your tendency to come across as critical. Likewise, Dolphins, remember the Honeybee’s need for accuracy and completion of tasks so when you get bored and don’t follow-thru, this is disrespectful to the Honeybee. Also, most conflicts can be avoided for this pair if they learn to clarify communication. In other words if the abstract thinking Dolphin can preface comments with clarifying statements such as “not that I actually want to do this, but wouldn’t it be fun to…” this lets the Honeybee know it is NOT a plan, just a dream; or “I really want us to think about …” this lets them know you are seriously needing their help planning. Likewise, if the Honeybee can clarify with things like “are we just “what-ifing” or do you really want to do this;” or “are we actually planning this or are we just brainstorming.”

Dolphin Attributes:

Flighty, Expressive, Talkative, Whimsical, Sociable, Spontaneous, Emotional, Fun-loving, Charming, Enthusiastic, Out-going, Convincing, Playful, Jovial, Animated, Optimistic, Affectionate, Sensitive, Colorful, Disorganized

Honeybee Attributes:

Detail Oriented, Conscientious, Critical, Systematic, Logical, Rigid, Practical, Perfectionist, Reliable, Cautious, Rule-bound, Analytical, Precise, Calculating, Proficient, Planner, Consistent, Score-keeper, Self-sacrificing, Disciplined

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